Personal Hair Chronicles Volume 1: Everyone is NOT a natural beauty

 

Let me warn you. This blog is not for the die hard naturalista. This is for the ladies that are natural and:

1. Keep a protective style
2. Rock a sew in because their hair texture frightens them.
3. Did the big chop and is regretting the TWA, because “shady shrinkage” comes to steal kill and destroy
4. Experiencing the oily break out from too many essential oils
5. Contemplate daily about returning to the creamy crack
6. Do not have their product and regiment down to a science and have spent countless dollars on product
7. Curl pattern doesn’t quiet curl like it used to (dryness and shrinkage)
8. Just trying to figure out why the crown of their head hurts randomly

I can go on, but I won’t. I am sure you get the picture. I am a hair stylist but I do NOT have all of the answers.

If you follow me on social media, I am sure you see I am a woman that changes my hair style a lot. Even though I am a hairstylist, I like to be versatile with my hair. Growing out my short hair cut without a relaxer has been tough. Prior to having short hair with a partial relaxer on just the back and sides of my hair, I was natural for 6 years. I had a head full of hair. I transitioned from relaxed to natural from a blonde bob. I did not want to overlap the high level blonde with relaxer so I just transitioned.

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I transitioned by wearing sew ins hair extensions and trimmed off my relaxed ends over a period of time. When I felt comfortable with my natural texture, I then began wearing it out in the natural styles.

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Occasionally I would blow my hair out and straighten it. If my hair was was not in a sew in, I wore it in a puff or “wash and go”. Some days my wash and go was amazing. Other days I looked like the cowardly lion. I got really bored with my natural hair. Even though it had grown it to shoulder length, the longer it got the more work it took. When I worked out it frizzed up. When I would wash and go, every day was different. I got tired of wearing the extensions as my go to for protective styling.

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I still love a good weave to date. At that moment I just needed a change. In 2014, I renewed my wedding vows in Antigua. I got one last sew in for my vacation and ceremony. I purchased the “Heat Free for curls hair”. This hair was beautiful. It matched my 3c natural curl pattern perfectly. It was easy to work with and was beautiful. Very costly, but worth it for my trip. I enjoyed my time with my sew in with the Heat Free hair, but I was HOT! After spending over $600 (Which is thee most I have ever spent on my hair EVER. My excuse was I was a bride…..Ridiculous ?) on the hair extensions and my install. I was cute though……LOL  ??

 

 

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I removed the install after 4 weeks. I was over the hair weave shenanigans. I was over the natural textured twist out, puff and styles. On July 2nd, 2014 I was straightening my hair after a workout. As I straightened, I kept sweating. The more I straightened, I sweat. Out of frustration I had a “I am not my hair” moment, and began cutting my own hair. (If you’re not a stylist, I do not recommend this) I found myself with a cute short and tapered style with a full bang. I even added a pop of color. I loved it. I was still natural, I had versatility and I was happy.

 

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I tried many short hair styles and fell in love with all of them. At the shortest I had a platinum blonde Afro that was poppin’. The color loosened my curl pattern so when I wet it, it was fairly straight and easy.

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Some how between all of those styles, I have my current situation: The ALL NATURAL TWA (Tennie.Weenie.Afro) Now I will admit, I am naturally indecisive and often too analytical  when it comes to my hair. My biggest dilemma  is, I am currently marketing my book, so I have to look like the lady on the cover as much as possible. BUT this big factor has a major affect on my current situation. My hair began growing fast. I trimmed off my relaxed ends one day and got another sew in. I (and of course my husband) loved the sew in. It was cute and convenient. Then I got hot. Like, hotter than I did in 2014. I was sweating badly at night. I was sweating in my head. It itched (which is not a normal for hair extensions). I wanted to feel my scalp. After 4 weeks again, I removed the sew in.

 

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This time I tried to embrace my T.W.A. I was inspired my my Pinterest hair board. I was going to try to embrace my off black/sandy brown, short, natural hair. I did for a few weeks. Honestly I feel it does not fit me at all. (this is where all potential judgement from the naturalists need to cease) I receive lots of compliments on my little natural hair. It just did not fit my personality. I didn’t always feel polished. I felt like I had to wear make up everyday just to jazz it up a bit. I don’t like wearing a full face everyday. The oils from the products were breaking out my skin. So between the breakouts and the small hair, I felt like I had to put some make up on. Even with the make up on, I didn’t feel like my look from head to toe all came together. I was frustrated…AGAIN. I found myself in the mirror again….this time with a good old bucket of the “creamy crack” (again if you are not a professional stylist don’t try this at home. And even then, you are taking a risk) I had the gloves on and everything, and then something said, “not yet”.

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So instead I washed my hair and decided to blow dry it and straighten it to see exactly how much length I had. To my surprise, I had a nice short bob length that I have been rocking with every since. I like this style. It’s easy, and it’s cute. The only issue I have is with the length of my hair is, with  the lack of weight on my hair, my straightened hair does not last during a work out. I keep a fashionable hat on deck for those sweaty hair days, but the truth is, I am STILL not satisfied.

 

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I know this was a long post about me and all of my hair woes. I did this post because even the hair stylists struggles hair woes. We struggle with what to do with our hair just like you. Thank you for listening to my rant about my hair. I can not say what my hair may look like the next time you see me. Some days I consider a texturize to make my hair more manageable. Some days I think about getting a quickweave or a sew in again. Other days I think about that bucket of “creamy crack” and a jet black Demi color. I just know I am in between a rock and a hard place….I don’t have a stylist myself as a stylist, so whatever it’s meant to be, for the time, it’s up to ME. ? Share your thoughts, comment, and share on your social media for a fun discussion.

Feeling damn Unpretty some days and it hurts,
(just kidding I’m ok, I just needed a good line to end this blog with)
Ebony ❤️

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  • Tami Nicole
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    All of your looks were gorgeous! I feel (as a stylist) that we as women, have that option to change our looks which ever way the wind blows. It is one of the perks of being a woman! It’s ok to switch up your style based on your feelings for the moment. Whatever makes you feel pretty at that time, DO IT! Cut it! Color It! Sew it! Grow it! Make sure that you love yourself and that you love your look when you step out your door! ♡

  • Erica Scott
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    Sigh, i miss my old pre baby hair texture and resilience. My hair is so lifeless limp and without body.. I’ve NEVER had this problem. If anyting it was the opposite. I’m thinking sew in may he my only option for volume.

    • Ebony S
      Reply

      Awe man! Unfortunately post baby hair is hard. It takes it almost two years to bounce back. Especially if there was anesthesia used during delivery. I have seen that happen way too often

  • Nicola Forbes
    Reply

    You represent soooooo many of us hairdresser and client as well

  • Marsha
    Reply

    OMG, I feel like I just read my story! #StrugglingNatural

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