My First Blog Post: Lessons From A Successful Failure

Success is not built on success. It’s built on failure. It’s built on frustration. Sometimes it’s built on catastrophe.”

– Winston Churchill 

Hello, I am Ebony N. Stroder also known as E.Styles. Welcome to my first blog post on my new site. Here you can expect me to share my thoughts on the beauty industry, entrepenuership, goal setting, womanhood, and just the pursuit of it all! I am pretty much a free spirit and depending on the day my thoughts vary. I promise to keep you entertained, enlightened, but most of all inspired and encouraged.

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I’ve blogged before on my Salon website back in 2012. I stopped honestly, because it was totally chaotic and disorganized.

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I had no idea what I was doing. I just knew I enjoyed writing, and I knew there had to be a better way than what I had going on. You see, I have no problem with stopping something if it is not flowing.

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I’m a libra (for those of you that are into the Zodiac. I find it interesting and a lot of it fits my personally) I will forever be on a life long journey of peace, balance and order. I personally don’t feel like you are a quitter if you choose to take a pause to better the cause. Some people prefer to continue in the midst of it all and press through it. I don’t knock them. The way MY humility is set up, (*inserts Kevin Hart voice) I prefer to humble myself before I am humbled. This does not mean I think others are less humble than I am. I just prefer to try to prevent chaos in my life, instead of curing  the chaos later, if that makes sense. The truth is we all will need to walk instead of run at some point. Some may believe that it may make you weak to slow down. In my opinion, I believe just the opposite. Knowing when to slow down or stop, builds your strength. It gives you endurance and longevity, as long as you stay determined. The race was not given to the swift nor the strong, but the one who endures until the end.

(Ecclesiastes 9:11)

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A great percentage of my life is summed up in a multitude of what some may call failures. Depending on who you ask and their perspective of me, they may say in some areas of my life, I have failed…..And I have. In my greatest failures, I have eventually gained success. For example: I started a college degree in journalism in the year 2001. I dropped out of college to pursue a career as a cosmetologist and esthetician because I loved it. 14 years later, I am now a licensed hair stylist/salon owner, and a published author. I would like to believe, that I have obtained some levels of success. It’s not always about how you start, but how you finish. Here are 5 lessons I have learned as a successful failure. Feel free to comment subscribe, comment, and share with your friends on your social media of this helps you! 

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1. It does not matter how slow you go, as long as you do not stop. That’s pretty self explanatory huh?

2. Perfection is impossible, but excellence is obtainable. No one is perfect. I have found the beauty in my imperfections. Excellence is something anyone can posses. It requires diligence, consistency, prayer and patience for sure. You can not rush it.

3. Delay is not denial. Just because something is put on hold, does not mean it can never happen. Delay can actually be a shield of protection if you allow it to be.

4. The late Aaliyah said it best: If at first you don’t succeed…dust yourself off and try again. Nothing beats a failure but a try. If you don’t try at all, then you have failed. If you try once or a thousand times, you succeeded more than the person not trying period.

5. My all time fave scripture: (Phillipians 4:6) 
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. I do not do well with making hasty decisions! One things for sure though, when I pray about everything and not worry, it calms my anxiety, gives me comfort and peace. The peace is not in knowing the how everything is going pan out. It’s simply just believing and knowing that I can trust God beyond what I see in front of me. The proof for me, is in all of my previous failures that he made a success. 

All Love ?

Ebony N. Stroder

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  • Christina Pearson
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    Awesome article!

    • Ebony S
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      Thank you for reading! ?

  • Cirsten
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    Such an awesome word!!

    • Ebony S
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  • Shonna
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    Thanks for sharing your lessons I needed to read those on today. Great blog!

  • Jatona
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    Love it!! ?

  • Joy Redmon
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    This was an excellent read! I really enjoyed it and very helpful. Thank you for sharing.

  • Keisha
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    Loved every minute of it. I am a witness thay stopping doesn’t make you a quitter, but a means to focus and regroup sometimes. So proud of you!

  • K
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    I don’t usually read blogs, I just look at pics. Your blog was interesting and appeared to be words from your heart. I enjoyed reading your blog.

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