Changing and Transitioning
How many times have we gone through transitions and changes in our lives? One of the hardest things about transitioning is, it causes us to be uncomfortable. Making the decision to change one thing and starting another is exciting. It is liberating and easy, but right in the middle of any change, is when things get hard. It seems like in the inbetween stage is when you realize that we have completely stepped outside of our comfort zone. Everything comes to surface. In the middle of any situation you also have the decision to quit, or to progress. This blog post is dedicated to anyone transitioning in life. For those who are glowing up, making strides to make changes but have found themselves stuck. Straight up stuck like the lyrics of the late great Michael Jackson (who’s birthday happened to be yesterday August 29th) : If you are “Too high to get over; too low to get under; You’re stuck in the middle, and the pain is thunder” , AND you want to REALLY be starting something….This is for you. ?
Transition- The process or a period of changing from one state or condition to another.
Metanoia- The journey of changing one’s mind, heart, self, or way of life.
These two words are something that I know alot about. By nature, I am a seeker of peace and balance. I was born on September 23rd. For some of you that get into the Zodiac thing, that put me at the Virgo and Libra cusp. (the end of Virgo and the beginning of Libra) Being born to a mother that is a Virgo and having that birthdate as well, I feel like I have qualities of both signs. More of my characteristic fall under the Libras description. I can be indecisive about the smallest things like what I want to eat. That is a true libra characteristic, but when it is time to make a big decision, I am able to make a wise decision, strategically and boldly. I definitely feel like that is a Virgo characteristic that I have inherited being on the cusp. (Thanks Mom) Most of the time those big decisions, are always the right decision. Whether it was my hair, or a business adventure I strongly believe I adapt to change and transitions better than most people. I used to think I was weird and somewhat unstable, until a friend of mine pointed out that it was one of the things that they admired about me the most. I was told that it was a great quality to embrace about myself so I have. I’ve had my fair share of experience in transitioning. I recently just closed down a salon that I dreamed about 8yrs ago to work in someone else’s salon. I Left Ft.Wayne Indiana and a full clientele, to move to Indianapolis. I had to start from scratch building up my business. It took me 8 yrs to get to that moment where I just decided to close it. I sold everything in about a week and moved on. Major Change. Major transition. People were amazed at my decision, because it was a big dream of mine. I’ve had several people ask me why I decided to come out of my salon. My reason is surprisingly so simple. I came. I saw. I learned. I grew. I conquered. On to the next.
Making the decision to close Eclectic Peace Beauty Lounge was the easy part. It is the start of a transition in my life and business. Although the middle phase has not began for me with this recent change; I can use my past and current experiences, to encourage you and recondition myself. Here are somethings I know for sure….
Surround yourself around people who understand change, or no one at all. When you finally choose to get outside of your comfort zone it will be uncomfortable for you. It will not only be uncomfortable for you, but others around you too. You will need the support of people that will stand with you and hold you up in the process. If a person becomes self absorbed and all they can talk about is how your change is affecting them, run. There is also another side to this. When you decide to make changes, there will be people that may fall off and distance themselves from you. They will have their different reasons, that is not any of your concern. Both of these scenarios can be distractions to your goal of changing for the better. Often times when a person makes the decision to finally get out of the boat and walk on water, the people that are still stuck in the boat are reminded of their excuses. They are reminded of why they are still sitting there and haven’t done anything to activate their own faith, and keep choosing fear. Don’t be distracted. Don’t allow yourself to sink under water, and most of all don’t get back in that boat. Move forward.
PRAYER and POSITIVITY
Prayer is always necessary. When you are growing and developing in your change it is essential. You will have to get to know this new self that God already knows. This is the most major component in transitioning. You are going to want to quit. You are going to want to naturally go back to familiar territory. Growth is about real progression. As you progress you will have to deny your old self several times. You will be tested as well. Prayer will keep you centered. Prayer will keep you motivated. Prayer will keep you encouraged during weak times. Prayer will most certainly help you recognize any oppressor’s tactics like, fear, doubt, disbelief, that are used to discourage you. Praying will strengthen you as you are being stretched. It will build your relationship with God. The more you talk to God and pray, the more focus and clarity is gained. Your path will become clear on what moves make. It’s seriously like God giving you an easy blue print to follow. You will begin to see yourself as the person that God saw you as before he formed you in the womb. And once you see yourself as that person, you will look up and the transistion has happened. Just keep praying and take action on the things revealed to you in that prayer time. Spend time alone with you and God. Remember that small prayers are just as effective as your long prayers. Never under estimate the power in a 3 minute prayer right in the middle of the day. They work. Trust me.
Lastly Perseverance. Perseverance is a word that you will need to become familiar with. As you transition in any area of your life you will need it. You must remain encouraged and steadfast through any difficulty and delay that will come your way. Success does not come instantly. In order to make it through to a total transformation it will take determination, persistence, diligence, dedication, and endurance. All of these are family members of perseverance. Here are some key scriptures and affirmations I use to keep me motivated and inspired. I will leave you with these in closing. Feel free to comment and share on your social media page of choice.
“Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did” -Grinwhich
“Perseverance is not a long race, it is many short races one after the other” Walter Elliot
“The race is not given to the swift nor to the strong, but to he who endures until the end” – Ecclesiastes 9:11
“The last will be first, and the first will be last” Matt 20:16
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God” Phillipians 4:6
P.S. If you need a little more encouragement, in your spare time read Phillipians 4 in its entirety. It’s one of my favorites to read when I feel inpatient